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Alhamdulillah MaashaaAllah, Thank So Much (jazaakumullahu Khairan).Reply
Baarak Allahu feek! Succinct and practical. Tried no. 1, very effective and a lot lighter on the soul.Reply
JazakAllahu Khairan, really needed to read this, very useful indeed 🙂Reply
What a timing! Your message has come at a point when I’m already in such pain of already having said “yes” in a most important matter of my life of getti.g married to someone.. not of my type,personality,interest,life and hereafter goals..and in pain of knowing that can’t step back now as he is from family and all the relations are already inter-connected. Can u advise?Reply
Thanks you Bro you have given indeed many clues on how.to tackle the embarrassing answer of saying NO.. May Allah help you and your familyReply
Alhamdulillahi I have learn a lot and I will wish to have more of lecture so as to improve me self with it .thank u very much May Almighty Allah bless u Amin.Reply
Jazakallah khair! Brother Muhammad Alshareef.
Actually this topic is related to me, I won’t be able to say “NO” and later i used to say “No” and try to justify it. & thereafter Alhumdulillah i have tried many times say no straightforward and it really works and In Sha Allah will stick to the same.
This information is very useful and In Sha Allah will benefit others.
I really like the post. It has encouraged me to make the right decision.. Thank you soo much brother.. May Allah give us the courage to say No with ease. As Salaam AlaykumReply
Very inspirational brother… It has really made me ponder.. And making the right decision matters not pleasing people.. As Salaam AlaykumReply
This happened to me just today. A brother suckered me into driving from my suburbs to downtown Toronto to pick him up and drop him off at the airport, on a precious weekend when my family has arrived from overseas. And how could I say No? He even knows my personal circumstances are not so easy.Reply
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS WONDERFUL MESSAGE!! MORE POWER AND ALLAH BLESS YOU ALWAYS!!Reply
Masha’Allah! May Allah shower his blessings on you and the rest of the Muslim ummah . AameenReply
I have been battling wilt this state of mind for ages!
Many thanx to Mr. Alshareef for his blog. I will, insha Allah, heed to the content of his communication. JazakhAllah khairan
This is so beneficial, because I’m in a position where I feel, if I say NO, I will end up in a lot of trouble. so I’ve been faithfully doing what i’m asked to, though it hurts me a lot. Now I have some ideas, how to say no, without having to justify it.Reply
Alhamduallahi my brother I having try to say nothing people I can, with u NOW I know how to say it without fear may Allah blessed u with paradise amen.Reply
Masha Allah. Thanks so much Mohammed. For a long time, I had difficulty in saying ‘No’ when I really need to. I would always think of costing someone or just say ‘yes’ you will squeeze your schedule and manage to take it. But they sometimes compile and I am already very heavy, I have accepted way beyond my capabilities. With this article, I will hopefully be able to say ‘No’ and do it nicely. Shukran.Reply
May Almighty Allah reward you on all your efforts. I have a challenge in my life, my major weakness in life is my in ability to be a man of principle, some time I harm my self to ease someone.Reply
Thanks, may Allah grant you more reward for enligting us.Reply
Thank you very much for liberating me and moved me away from sin we think that is minor. It is a CAPITAL LIES when we say what don’t really mean but we prefer to offend ourselves and Allah by pleasing human being like us.
Alhamdulillahi! After reading this article, I feel relieve and free from bad idea.
When we say what don’t really meant, people will still hate you because you are not sincere meanwhile you wanted to satisfy them by displeasing yourself. Let fear Allah and satisfy Him rather than human being like us. May Allah bless me, you and other readers. Amin
Thank you very much for liberating me and moved me away from sin we think that is minor. It is a CAPITAL LIES when we say what we don’t really mean but we prefer to offend ourselves and Allah by pleasing human being like us.
Alhamdulillahi! After reading this article, I feel relieve and free from bad idea.
When we say what we don’t really meant, people will still hate you because you are not sincere meanwhile you wanted to satisfy them by displeasing yourself. Let us fear Allah and satisfy Him alone rather than human being like us. May Allah bless me, you and other readers. Amin
Mallam! This has been my major problem, how to say No to people! I’m indeed feel much relief of this problem now after going through your inspirational talk on this disturbing subject matter! I wish you Allah’s gaiudance and protections at all times. Jazakallahu Ahiran!Reply
Jazakhallah khiran brother for effective tips which is not to hurt others and easy to compromise ourselves of being true.!! May allah give barakkah on your time to brings up more articles …..Reply
Asalamu aleikum. There is something I would like to share with u. I need your personal email address..Reply
How about saying “No” to boss at the workplace. Any advice! I suppose if we are busy with other things we can ask the boss that I am busy with other assignments I would be happy to take up the new assignment if you relieve me from the other. In this way you can say “No” or get relieved from other assignment for taking up the new work.Reply
May Allah reward you
This article is absolutely amazingly benifetual mashaAllah
May Allah bless your works and efforts and grant you tawfeeqReply
mashallah its very bebeficial thankz i was realy savering from no rejectReply
This is very educative and make us understand Islamic religion more. Jasakun – llahu Khairan.Reply
Thank you Shaykh – this is like a breath of fresh air…alhamdulilah..liberating!Reply
Salaam, I think some of these explanations works only on matter of time, what about if it is a request: financial, or material issues. how do you say No in these instances?Reply
Thank you brother. I was wondering yesterday where you’ve been as I was missing your emails 🙂 You are absolutely right, used to feel guilty, even thought that I was sinning because I refused invitations (I am a studying mum with husband and 2 kids) . The worse is that people who invite you expect you to invite them in return even if they do not say so. But not guilty anymore. If you are sharing it, it can’t be a sin to refuse an invitation! Jazaak Allah.Reply
Salamun alaykum yaa Shaikh,I really enjoy reading the article and found it beneficial,I also learn the simple way of saying No when iam supposed to,without thinking twice,all I can say is;May Allah reward your effort with jannatul Firdausi,may He also accept our ibaadat and forgive our short comings, انه ولي ذلك والقادر عليهReply
Alhamdulillah,i Thank Allah(Azza Wajaal) for being on this site,Jazak’Allahu’Kheiyr.Reply
Jazakallahu khairan. Really helpful. Coz most of the time we end up lying or stressing ourselves.Reply
I appreciate your teaching n makes me get motivated. Thanks brother in Islam for your teachings.Reply
Very helpful.. Great effort Muhammad Alshareef.. May Allah reward you of this AmeeenReply
Aslm alkm. So how do we reconcile this with our obligation to share and commune with our brothers and sisters in need? Well if I have akready committed to a future obligation well and good, but if I do so to avoid unkown future obligations does that not negate goodwill in the otherwise good deed?Reply
Assalamu alaikum. Jazakallahu-khairan! Your advice is so practical and helpful. I will try the topls inshaa-Allah as i have a real issue with saying no.Reply
Jazakamullaah khairaan,,,, needed this article,I’ve alwyz had this weaknesses… Thank you,may ALLAH alwys bless u&all of us insha ALLAH,,,, ameenReply
Jazaka Allah khair brother i had the same problem but now i feel so thankfully for your advise may Allah bless you.Reply
Thank you for the words of encouragement To say no ,may Allah reward you and your family, again thanks for the lesson on (no) b well inshallahReply
This is beautiful! It has been so hard to say no so many occasions. This’ll be helpful jazakumullahReply
Alhamdulillah to be a good muslim thank you for sharing your knowledge barakallahfikhReply
Assalamu Alaikum, Jazakallah khair I really appreciate it and it has taught me many lessonsReply
Have been in pains for a while now just because I think I should not hurt other.Good for this lessonReply
20 years ago, I gave away something I never should have, just because I was too cowardly to say ‘no’ and I cared too much about what other people were thinking even though they were hurting me. Now I ask Allah to forgive me and to grant me the strength to never again say ‘yes’ with my actions or words while my heart is really screaming NO.
Jazzakallah khair for the useful and regular advice.
Masha Allah, may Allah richly bless you for this remarkable adviceReply
Ma’sha’Allah, very insightful article and contains valuable tips. Jazakallah Khayr.Reply
Salam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatu. That was very useful Masha Allah. Short and sweet! Barakallahu fihiReply
Dear brother Alshereef , While appreciating your efforts and expertise in various areas and especially on the perspective of Islamic point of view, I am of the view that when a situation arises when some one has to say “NO” or avoid using the word, why not we also consider and think of converting a situation when somebody has to say”NO” by converting the negative situation or negative answer by converting into a positive question/statement.Reply
Asalam walekum brother, jazak Allah kher for the article. I started to say NO bit earlier but I got more confidence saying it after reading your Article… May Allah bless you … I always read many personality development and management related articles and at times i used to feel hollow as there was no connection with our deen. They used to write how to make a to do list n this that but never did they write how to connect it with our creator. thAnk you brother , u r creating values in our life.Reply
Shukran. It is better to be truthful than making promises which you cannot keep. No will be the BEST answer.Reply
Assalamualaikum. I’m sending a link about forced marriage. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbeoJX2Fo2w . Although in this you’ll not find direct references but I think you can think about it. Please don’t get outraged by the video and don’t try to show it directly to your parents because at end of the day they are your parents. Rather try to convince them through someone. If your attitude about your future spouse is like this (as you mentioned) then you really need to find a way out. I’m not an scholar so don’t just depend on my suggestion. Try to consult someone knowledgeable before its too late and more importantly ask Allah to help you out, it never fails. Pray tahazzud and ask Allah to help you and then keep asking in your mind.
May Allah make it easy for you. Ameen.
Much needed topic for me. Jazak Allah khair sheikh for teaching us how to say no when its good to say no.Reply
Brother, you’very touched on a personal troubling topic. I always say yes to people, by saying No to myself a lot. In the end I get upset at myself for either disappointing them or hurting myself. I’ll start working on your recommendations. May Allah prolong your life with good health and increase your in both Iman and ilm.Reply
“When you come from a position of humility, saying no is so much easier”. I like that statement, because it is actually so liberating to truthfully just ask people’s forgiveness for saying no.Reply
Thank you brother,may we be able to be true to ourselves and our muslim brothersReply
Jazzakillah kheir…MashAllah MashAllah MashAllah.May Allah grant you more knowledge to educate the muslim ummah.Reply
ALHAMDULILLAH, IS HORRIBLE FOR ME TO SAY NO, BUT NOW, I’M SAFE. TNX MAL. MUHAMMADReply
Indeed it is true because saying “NO” right from the start makes you feel good than giving all the reason. Thank you for the information.Reply
Alhamdulilah, shukran laka, for this cause I’m one for not knowing how to say no to ANYONE!!!…. I thank Allah for you cause you help me out a lot in my daily life…Allah baraka feek and your family Amin.Reply
Salaams so true always plan your day and time before its planned for you Baarak ALLAHu FikumReply
It is one of my biggest weak points. Insha Allah I will try to overcome this weakness with understanding that a NO will hurt somebody for some seconds, minutes or days but a YES without actually wanting to say yes can ruin ones life. May Allah give me courage enough to say what I believe in without caring about what people will think of me.Reply
Those of you Brothers and Sisters who are married and/knowledgeable, please respond to this sister Afeefa in the above post. She needs it badly!!!!Reply
Shukran brother, im always yes to my colleagues. They always comes to shift swapping, even my manager first comes to me for any favor she always expect yes from me.now on Insha Allah i will practice to say no in a very polite way.Reply
Ma shaa Allah I have found a solution to my problem. Jazak Allahu khairanReply
Salam alaykum. Thank you again brother. This is very helpfull cause i couldnt say no to anyone and would find a way or just tell a lie and im tired of it. This is 👍 greatReply
Am so happy to know this, May Allah (SWT) reward you beyond your expectation.Reply
Thank you very much brother may Allah bless you and your family I was struggling to say no to people because I would think I’m horrible but after reading this I’m so happy thank you again may Allah bless you ameenReply